09 May It is Time to Unlearn: Gratitude and Insensitive Statements
You can thank God for your good without measuring it against another person’s misfortune.
I was going to ask a question on the time line today but I asked my close friends instead and we processed it together.
It is a new month and I am thankful for the gift of life. We all are, we all should be.
However, I get really uncomfortable when people say something like… ” Thank God I am alive today, many people died this year, even my neighbour died but I am still alive.”
”The car I was in was involved in an accident. I thank God that everyone died except me.”
Or something along those lines.
I think statements like that are insensitive.
My friend Ugo mentioned that we have grown up saying things like that but it is definetly something we need to unlearn.
I mean, when we were younger we used to sing this song during lunch break in Primary school in Nigeria
”Some have food but cannot eat, some can eat but have no food, we have food and we can eat, glory be to God on high. Amen.” 😭😭😭😭
It is time to unlearn !
I think I became more aware of this because I am still healing from the hurt of losing someone close to me. So, I am trying to empathise with someone whose pain from their hurt is still raw.
My friend Ore said it could even make people doubt God’s love for them and question if he is as mindful of those that lost thier lives as he is if those who are thankful for their lives in such an insensitive way.
It is is time to unlearn.
If you want to be thankful, be thankful without measuring your good against the misfortune of others.
I will end with this passage.
”Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt….” Col 4:6
Please, let us be very sensitive with our words.